February 2012
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Josie en Español
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Suzy
I have spent much of my life curious about human nature and the principles that
organize our thoughts, feelings and behaviors. My ongoing search has led me to
an in-depth study of Western Psychology, culminating in a master’s in Counseling
Psychology and the pursuit of licensing as a Marriage and Family Therapist. I have
also dedicated well over a decade to my yoga practice and a sincere...
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Peter
Peter Gevisser was born and raised in Johannesburg, South Africa. He graduated from Brown University with a BA in English and American Civilization in 1994. He then moved to London where he trained as an actor, and had been working professionally as such, in London and the USA, until he enrolled at Antioch University, where he graduated with a Masters in Clinical Psychology last April. He...
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Aditi
I believe that all therapy must be done in a culturally conscious & sensitive way. I work with clients in a holistic manner that is non-judgmental, compassionate, culturally aware and tailored to the specific needs of each individual client. I believe that good therapy enables us to thrive in the world, not just survive. As a therapist, I am dedicated to creating a safe space where clients...
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El Modelo REBT por Josie en NYC
El modelo ABC es un ejercicio de la terapia REBT. Con este ejercicio uno puede analizar y disputar los pensamientos irracionales con la realidad. También pueden hacen este ejercicio con cualquier situación. El modelo ABC nos guía como ser mas tolerantes y flexible sobre eventos desafortunados.
El primero se llama el “A” y esta parte significa el evento de activación. El evento de activación es...
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Suzy's Video Intro
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Meet Suzy, new therapist working with Dr. DeMarco...
Suzy is joining our team at MyTherapistNewYork. Suzy is a marriage and family therapist from California who is pursuing supervision and licensure in New York. Suzy uses concepts from Eastern thought (such as yoga therapy, ayurvedic counseling, etc) to inform her work with individuals and couples. Under Dr. DeMarco’s supervision, Suzy draws from her studies and experiences to help clients...
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Hidden Benefits of Learning a Language
So I was reflecting on my experience with learning Spanish and I recalled something very useful. I find not many people realize a powerful hidden benefit from learning another language is how it relates to self-talk. Now self-talk is a pretty simple concept, but it is has powerful implications for our day-to-day functioning. The way we talk to ourselves is essentially an extension of our cognitive...
January 2012
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Insurance & Therapy, pt 2: What other therapists...
We do not accept insurance- And here is why…
Right now there is a discussion on one of the mental health groups on LinkedIn about the problems with the DSM and using insurance in therapy. Â I wanted to share a few of the exchanges here in response to a post by Hilding Ohrstrom, LCPC:
To DSM or Not to DSM, that is the question…..
Earlier in my career, I used to think the DSM process...
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Insurance & Therapy, pt 1
We do not accept insurance for therapy- Â And here is why.
People don’t generally expect therapy when making out their budgets. Â They really don’t expect it when they have insurance coverage that covers medically necessary treatments. Â For these treatments to be covered, the clinician must give you a medical diagnosis, which becomes part of an elaborate trail of paperwork (sometimes...
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Running, Happiness, and State of Mind
We could learn our lesson from the world-renowned runners of the ancient Mexican people, the Tarahumara, and abandon our running shoes. According to 2010, the wordâs leading athletic supplier, Nike, Inc., which is the name of the Greek goddess of victory, brought in a total net capital of $20.86 billion. This makes Nike, Inc., the largest international seller of athletic gear. Unlike the...
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Sex, Love and Politics: A discussion of scandals,...
You don’t have to be married. That’s right folks, a licensed marriage and family therapist doesn’t think you have to be married. Truth is, I tend to use my other titles more than my marriage and family therapist titles, because of what that license implies. I am not pro-marriage. I am not pro-family. Now that doesn’t mean I am anti-marriage and family, so don’t...
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Mitch discusses cognitive distortions
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Cross-Cultural Relationships – In Time, Space and...
As I was saying in Part 1, cross-cultural couples have to negotiate an additional level of complexity when in a relationship. More of an awareness of each other’s cultural interpretations of actions can give cross-cultural couples the tools they need to deepen their relationship and understanding of each other. For this piece, lets look at the concept of “space.”
As someone who spent the first 16...
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Nicole discusses how exercise and therapy can...
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REBT Intro # 4
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Josie discusses who goes to therapy and who...
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Holiday Cognitive Distortions
Over the Holiday break while visiting family, some of the cognitive distortions that run amok in my family became very clear to me. Donât get me wrong I love my family and I wouldnât be the (most-of-the-time-hopefully-good) person I am today if it hadnât been for their parts in my life. However, as I watch many of my younger cousins getting older and coming of age, it becomes clear to me how...
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Relationships – We Are Not Alone
What is it that brings us to therapy? Most often it is how we are feeling about ourselves. We feel depressed, stressed out, angry, lonely, just to name a few. But we are never alone in these feelings. When we go to a see a therapist for our problems, we bring a group of people along with us. Our relationships with others. They follow us into the therapist’s office. Very often a...
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Thoughts on Therapy
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Unconditional Acceptance
NYC Therapist, Dr. Michael DeMarco introduces unconditional acceptance from REBT
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What's Your Cup of Joe?
Yesterday I tweeted “Sometimes a good book, insightful conversation, cup of coffee/tea goes a long way!” and I started thinking about how sometimes the best part of my day is drinking a piping hot cup of strong coffee. Every morning I wake up and either make myself a cup of coffee of I go to one of my coffee spots in downtown Brooklyn and request the perfect cup from a barista.
To me, there is...
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Cross-Cultural Relationships: Time, Space and Food...
Any couple in a relationship will agree that sometimes ‘things come up’ and ‘need to be worked out.’ This seems obvious because in a relationship, two very different individuals come together, bringing with them their own unique histories, expectations and interpretations of the world. Building a relationship involves negotiating these differences.
Cross-cultural couples have even more to...
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Regret
As we enter a new year I believe this can be helpful to keep in mind.
TED talk- Kathryn Schulz: Don’t regret regret
Kathryn Schulz discusses the topic of regret in a very interesting speech. She relates how she learned quite a bit about the experience of regret after getting her first tattoo. She decides to let go of society’s conditioning that says we should let go of regret and...
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Thoughts on therapy
Hi! My name is Kristine. Throughout my life and studies I have found that many people respond to life’s stressors in different ways. I try to understand what is going on with me in most situations and do my best to strive to gauge what is going on with those around me. I find it helpful to look at situations from not only my point of view, but from the vantage point of those who may also have...
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Welcome
My name is Nicole and I want to help people work on the extra stress and anxiety that
could be inhibiting them from achieving happiness and success
whether it is related to work, finances, school, or interpersonal relations.
I work with clients suffering from stress, anxiety, depression, anger, or
adjustment problems to chronic health, disability, or mental disorders with
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Bio/Credentials
As practicing psychotherapist and clinical sexologist since 2002,  I have worked  with individuals,  couples, families, and groups dealing with a range of issues ranging from anxiety, depression, communication, to sexual and gender identity issues, to name a few.  I have supervised therapists-in-training since 2006 at the graduate and post-graduate level, and have served as adjunct professor...
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from "Sex Without Guilt in the 21st Century" by...
All people, just because they exist, should have the right to as much (or as little), as varied (or as monotonous), as intense (or as mild), as enduring (or as brief) sex enjoyments as they prefer- as long as, in the process of acquiring these preferred satisfactions, they do not needlessly, forcefully, or unfairly interfere with the sexual (or non-sexual) rights and satisfactions of others.
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The ANTI-DSM
Psychiatry and psychotherapy obsess on what’s wrong with people and give short shrift to what’s right. The manual of these professions is a 943-page textbook called the DSM-IV. It identifies scores of pathological states but no healthy ones. —-exerpt from Pronoia by Rob Brezsny The Anti-DSM-IV or The Outlaw Catalog of Cagey Optimism * ACUTE FLUENCY. Happily immersed in...
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Starting Therapy: Intro to REBT
Every style of therapy has their own interventions and way of seeing what is going on with the mind. My style of therapy, originated by Albert Ellis, is called REBT or rational emotive behavior therapy. One of the main interventions in this style of therapy is called the ABC’s. The ABC’s allow you to break down your drama and the thoughts about your drama to see how you ended up pissed off,...
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21st Century Therapy
Dr. DeMarco supervises graduate student therapists as well as post-graduates working towards licensure in New York as Mental Health Counselors or Marriage and Family Therapists.
We offer support in your journey towards emotional freedom and happiness - something that comes from you, not from us. We’re not selling diagnoses and pills. We’re not selling answers to all of your problems. We are here...
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Mona
Hi there. My name is Mona. I completed my masters degree in mental health counseling in 2009 and am working under the supervision of Michael DeMarco, Ph.D. while working towards obtaining my license which will enable me to be independently licensed.
For the past several years, I have worked with clients who experience a variety of mental health issues. These issues include feelings of...
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Intro to Therapy
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Unconditional Acceptance (Blog)
So now that you can identify your BS and how it gets you from the what happened to the how you feel/react, it’s time for the therapy part, and that means three core beliefs we need to keep in mind.
Unconditional Self Acceptance
Unconditional Other Acceptance
Unconditional Life Acceptance
Unconditional self acceptance is to love and accept yourself because you’re alive and a human being. That...
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REBT Intro #3
Let’s summarize. Something happens. You tell yourself all sorts of BS about that happening, and you feel and react accordingly. That’s how life works. If you’re all upset, then it’s you upsetting yourself. Generally we upset ourselves because we are only accepting ourselves, others and life based on OUR rules, and not on reality.
To continue the exercise, and reap some therapeutic reward, we...
Three steps towards becoming your best you!
Step 1: Schedule
Life in New York is hectic- finding a therapist doesn’t have to be. Our on-line scheduling system lets you set up your appointment 24/7.
Step 2: Intake
Before beginning psychotherapy or counseling, you will have an intake session to assess your situation and to figure out the best course of action for your work with the therapist. Since we are a training practice,...
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10 Things About Therapists
1. Therapists are people, too. As such, we have problems we try to work through, just like everyone else. We donât pretend to have it all together, and hope that we have a certain curiosity and aptitude to help people help themselves.
2. Therapists donât give advice. Believe it or not- weâre not advice columnists. Weâre not your friend. A therapist that says âYou should...