As many of us are all too aware, people in relationships—even those who had been alone for a while or unhappily partnered in the past—may start to grow accustomed to their partners and what they get out of the relationship. They may adopt an attitude not unlike entitlement, where they start to believe they deserve the unconditional love of their partners. At the same time, they begin to notice each others’ faults more frequently, especially very minor things that gnaw at them and lead to petty complaining and argument (not the positive kind of disagreement that ideally leads to better understand and reconciliation).
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