The Exhaustion of Depression

By Nico Gurley

I have been reading Daniel Goleman’s book “Emotional Intelligence” and it is truly fascinating how much of an effect our emotions can have on our reactions, behaviors and overall demeanor.  Depression, having one of the most debilitating effects on our day to day life, it is usually brought on by sadness, which is a coping mechanism to help us adjust to a significant loss such as a death of a loved one or even a major disappointment. These feelings of sadness can prompt a drop in energy levels as well as overall enthusiasm for daily life activities. This loss of enthusiasm can particularly impact our desire to seek out activities that we would normally pursue for diversion or pleasure. As this deepens it brings us into a state of depression, where the body’s metabolism slows while feelings of despair can increase making things feel insurmountable.

As these signs of depression increase, you may feel compelled to seek out help in trying to pull yourself out of this slump.  And to make matters worse, seeking help can become quite complicated when you consider the labels that may come with a diagnosis or the easy acquisition of a prescription that promises to fix whatever your problem happens to be.  Many psychiatrists may lead you to believe that the only way to get out of a depressive slump is by altering the bio-chemical imbalance in your brain by introducing a pharmaceutical component.  Some people choose this route as a treatment option without fully understanding the side effects or how their own perceptions and thinking could be worsening their level of depression.  In our practice as therapists, we use evidenced based cognitive behavioral approaches such as Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy ( to help you in dealing with your depressed feelings.  We do not burden you with a diagnostic label nor do we believe that anti-depressant medications are the solution to every bout of depression. Pharmaceuticals are only a quick fix to a bigger problem and research has shown that they have more adverse effects over long-term use. Come see us so we can work together to find the roots of the issues so that we can formulate and develop tools that you can use throughout your life to overcome feelings of sadness that may lead you to depression.  

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