In a recent post written for Lena Dunham's feminist newsletter Lenny Letter, actress Jennifer Lawrence disclosed her feelings about the clear gap between what she has made in movies she's starred in versus what her male costars have made. Lawrence asked how she could have negotiated better. Whether this is systemic or just her personal experience.
Lawrence aptly notes, however, that part of her reasoning for not pursuing a higher pay scale was not wanting to appear "bratty". She compares the idea that women are bratty or spoiled for asking for more money, while men are often seen as standing up for themselves. And she has proof. One of Lawrence's recent female costars was referred to in the leaked Sony emails as "bratty" for requesting more money.
Lawrence further vowed to negotiate with a harder line in the future. She wants to stand up for herself and not be so concerned with being "likable" or stating things perfectly nicely. Lawrence has an important point here that many women battle with on a day-to-day basis.
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