By Lindsay Shapiro
Last week I talked about how change is something we all have a hard time dealing with in our lives. There is new change, old change, good change, bad change. No matter what kind it is, it can be scary and difficult.
This week, I am going to talk about the type of change within ourselves and/or others. There may be days where you wish you could change the way you act, the way you feel, the way you look, etc. We may look to the future or even our past for ways in which we think we can change. But in reality, there is no point in looking to the future or the past, it’s important to live in the here and now.
When understanding ourselves, others, and life, we need to make sure to take into consideration the three unconditional acceptances. There is the unconditional self-acceptance, which means that you accept yourself no matter what, warts and all. Then there is the unconditional other acceptance, which means you understand that others are not here to please you and serve you, and that others may make mistakes – no one is perfect. And finally, there is unconditional life acceptance, which is if life throws something bad or unexpected your way, you don’t sit there having a pity party for yourself. You take it for what it is and move on with your life, dealing with it. The three unconditional acceptances are not to say that you don’t care about anything, but rather it’s about accepting without conditions.
So while you may walk around town thinking that you have to change for the person you love, or those around you need to change because you can’t stand what some people do, or maybe that life needs to change because you can’t deal with what it’s throwing your way, well it is time to sit down and understand that change isn’t all that easy and sometimes if change isn’t able to happen, then you must be willing to accept it unconditionally.