A couple of weeks ago I decided to watch the series “United States of Tara” on Netflix. For those who have never watched this show, it is about a woman who is managing Dissociative Identity Disorder (D.I.D) while also being a mother and wife. It was interesting for me to see how they incorporated the role of the therapist into the show.
During one episode Tara’s therapist referred her to another therapist who specializes in D.I.D. Tara did not take the referral well and transitioned into her one of her alters and caused a lot of trouble for her family. Tara felt as if her therapist was breaking up with her. She felt abandoned by her therapist’s choice to discontinue therapy.
This made me think of the relationships that we form with clients. The termination process can be a painful one but it is also one in which you get to reflect on all of the progress you have made. Sometimes people tend to think that once you start working with a therapist, you will need one for the rest of your life. At our office we believe that therapists teach you tools so that one day you don’t have to keep seeing us. And sometimes you may get referred, but referral is all about moving forward (not getting left behind).
When you start working with us, the focus is why are you here? What has brought you to our office? Let’s address the concerns using the REBT framework as a guide of how to live a healthy life. So while termination may feel like the end of a therapeutic relationship, it is a beginning of something better…