NYC Therapist Talks: What's your experience reading "50 Shades of Grey"?- New York therapist Josie wants to know!
Ok so everybody is reading this book, and it has me thinking as a therpaist- if everybody is reading it, why would people be ashamed of reading it? So I wanted to find out your experiences while reading "50 Shades of Grey".
The other day I saw a lady on the train and she was reading "50 Shades of Grey". I noticed that like many people that I know, she was trying to hide the cover and I couldn’t help it, I had to ask her.. “so what are you reading?” She goes and says “I’m reading 50 shades of greeeyy” And I replied, " Oh ok I read it too…but on my nook...". And she said “oh at least no one knew you were reading it!”.
There seems to be a lot of shame and guilt over reading this novel. Another woman had commented that she didn’t want to read it because then people would make assumptions about her sex life. That she was either into BDSM, was curious about it, or that her sex life was dull and she needed to spice things up.
So what’s going on here?
As a therapist, I work with clients who have sexual hangups, feeling guilty or curious regarding certain sexual acts or fantasies… We're even doing a workshop on kink within the next few weeks so stay tuned. I’ll keep you posted.
So let me know your experiences reading this book over at twitter, and if you wanna talk about your sex life, think about coming to talk to one of our therapists.
Note from Dr. DeMarco: Congrats to Josie for her "50 Shades of Grey" series, which are the top posts on our whole site! It seems like this book really touched on something that people still find taboo, and therefore terribly interesting, which is kink and BDSM. As sex therapists and psychotherapists, clients are often interested in finding out if their sexual interests are "crazy" or not. What it comes down to is some people like vanilla, some people like a bit of the 'ole Raspberry Swirl, and as long as you're not trying to live off ice cream alone, you probably don't have much to worry about. Still worries? Come see us!