Dr. Long, Pys.D. talks about how to best utilize or rather get the most from your therapy session(s), and I love it. Being Latino, there's quite a few stigmas with seeking help in the form of therapy and I'm often faced with this statement from friends and/or family outside of the field, "I've tried it and didn't like it..." or "I've been in therapy before and it didn't work...". The Devil's Advocate in me often replies with: If you go to the dentist and don't like the work they've done or the way you're treated, do you just throw in the towel with regards to your oral hygiene? Or if it's a coworker who loves their morning java-fix, I ask: if your morning coffee isn't made perfectly by your local bodega ( neighborhood corner store), do you quit drinking coffee? No, right? You either change dentists or coffee shops, respectively, or you go back and communicate what your experience has been and work something out.
Dr. Long, goes on to describe how to assess if you're paying for a "$200/hour bandaid" or simply not in the "right fit" of therapy for you and your needs. For example, in working with a Therapist whose focus is CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), I would focus on your thoughts, and beliefs to work together on how those can be directly affecting your feelings, and behaviors. Someone with more of a Psychodynamic background might ask "'how does that make you feel' quite a bit" and focus on your past/childhood.
Overall, it's about finding the right fit, like Dr. Long says in her article "[it can be] a bit like dating and it doesn't always just "click" on the first try..."
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