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MyTherapist New Orleans | MyTherapist New York

Modern, Effective Therapy

 

Providing compassionate, accessible counseling and sex therapy since 2003

Therapy and life coaching offer guidance in your journey towards emotional freedom and happiness. Modern therapists want to teach you the tools to create your own psychological, emotional and philosophical way in the world- your life, for you, by you. There are individuals, groups, corporations- whole systems designed to try to make you feel anxious, addicted, inadequate and helpless. Whether you keep feeling miserable for another day is now up to you. 

Modern, effective counseling can help. You've taken the first step just by looking for a therapist. With online scheduling, we make finding a therapist even easier! Choose a location to schedule now!

 

Contact

➤ LOCATIONs

116 West 23rd St, Ste 500
New York, NY 10011

(Chelsea Flatiron)

      625 Celeste St                           New Orleans, LA 70130

(Lower Garden District)

344 St. Joseph St, Ste 431
 New Orleans, LA 70130

(Warehouse District)

 

☎ CONTACT

 
Abraham Maslow suggested in his Hierarchy of Needs that humans are all striving towards the top of the pyramid- self-actualization, which is an ongoing process of making sure the other blocks of your pyramid are sturdy. Sex, a basic human need, is sometimes confused with love and sexual intimacy, which are higher-order needs.  Are you fully self-actualized? Not many of us are- which means most of us can benefit from therapy in one area or another.

Abraham Maslow suggested in his Hierarchy of Needs that humans are all striving towards the top of the pyramid- self-actualization, which is an ongoing process of making sure the other blocks of your pyramid are sturdy. Sex, a basic human need, is sometimes confused with love and sexual intimacy, which are higher-order needs.  Are you fully self-actualized? Not many of us are- which means most of us can benefit from therapy in one area or another.

Areas of Practice


Individual Counseling & Psychotherapy

Therapy for individuals, (also known as psychotherapy or counseling) focuses on working on the thinking that leads to unhealthy negative emotions (anger, anxiety, panic, depression, guilt, shame, etc) and the unhealthy, self-defeating behaviors that go with them. Using rational emotive behavior therapy (REBT), clients learn to identify what isn't working for them, and come up with a new set of directions to get where they want to be. Psychotherapy is not advice. Advice implies a right and wrong way to do things based on the therapist's own moral agenda or life experience.  Therapists are not advice columnists or friends. Therapists are not your moral guides, priests, gurus or rabbis. Therapists are trained to help identify how your thoughts and emotions might lead to behaviors that keep you feeling miserable. Therapy also doesn't mean you are sick, psycho, borderline, bipolar or crazy.  Therapy is for anyone.


Non-Traditional Relationships

Open relationships, polyamory, multiamory, swingers, monogamish, compersion - there is a whole world of language out there beyond monogamy.

While many people find themselves in a pair bond, many people realize that sexual fidelity and monogamy is not the default relationship style.

Working with a therapist who does not hold monogamy up as an ideal, enlightened state of being is important when working through the issues that might come up in opening your relationship or designing a relationship that works for you.

There are countless relationship styles and arrangements that have always existed. Let's design a relationship that might work for the people involved, rather than trying to copy what we think happened in 1950's middle-America.


Relationship Counseling

If you're in a relationship, it's probably best to deal with your issues within the context of your relationship. Relationship counseling (aka couples counseling, pre-marital counseling, marital therapy, etc)  focuses on identifying what each of you want in your ideal relationship, and helping you communicate those desires in a compassionate and effective way. Relationship counseling involves examining various aspects of your relationship including career, finances, sex life, parenting, family of origin, and more. Think your issues are your own?  Maybe - but you are bringing those issues to your relationship. We want to work with you systemically, that means working through issues within the context of your larger relationships. For the sake of ease, we describe this in terms of 2 people in a couple, but we welcome and affirm whatever safe, sane and consensual relationship you have designed (open relationships, triads, poly, etc). All of our therapists are sex-positive, LGBTQ-affirming, kink aware and secular. Relationship therapy is not out to save your relationship at all costs. Couples therapists have no agenda about helping you save or end your relationship, but we are out to help you design a relationship that is ideal for the people involved. Sometimes the most successful couples therapy is when you decide this isn't the relationship for you. The world is your oyster!

Unfortunately, insurance does not cover couples therapy, relationship therapy or marriage therapy. Insurance requires the diagnosis of an illness, and a couple, while maybe dysfunctional, cannot be "ill", as it were. You might be able to get your individual sessions covered by insurance depending on your plan, but it just doesn't work for couples therapy.


Clinical Supervision

We have provided clinical supervision for graduate students, post-graduates working on their hours towards licensure, and newly licensed clinicians looking to start their journey in private practice.  Contact us to inquire about supervision slots. 


Sex Therapy

We often get clients who tell us they haven't ever felt comfortable with other therapists talking about sexuality and other relationship issues. A therapist may or may not have the training (or desire) to address sex issues in therapy. Who knew?! 

Our staff all have a particular interest working with sexuality issues, as well as the myriad other issues that come up in intimate relationships.   Our staff are lgbtq-affirming, often work with open relationships, poly relationships and families, relationships involving kink, and more. 

In therapy, we want to create a safe space for you to create a common vision of your relationship, help you to communicate your needs and desires and to trust and accept your partner unconditionally (called unconditional other acceptance).  To do this, we alternate between seeing you as individuals one week, and together as a couple the following week, which encourages differentiation as well as relationship growth and evolution.  

Sex therapy is appropriate for people who are single or in relationships, young or old. Human sexuality is a basic human drive, and when this drive is dysfunctional (think vaginismus, erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, low libido, arousal disorder, etc) then this gets in the way of feeling okay in your own skin (also called self-actualization). 


Assessments

In some cases, clients need an assessment for issues related to gender identity, bariatric surgery, political asylum or other assessments related to psychological and sexual well-being. Assessments may or may not continue to follow-up sessions. Contact us for rates.


 

MyTherapist in the media - a few from the vaults

 
 

 
 
Sex is nice and pleasure is good for you.
— Dossie Easton, author "The Ethical Slut"
 
 

 
 
 

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